Caring for a person living with dementia affects different people in different ways. We want to give you a few tips on how to cope with it.
- Know your limits – It is important to remember that you are only one person and there is only so much that you can do. Try to focus on what you can do and accept the things that you can’t.
- Prioritize – When you have a lot of different things to do, it may help to prioritize. Work out which things you really need to do and which things are less important, and do the most important things first.
- Confront your feeling – It is important to try to understand why you feel the way you do, and accept any negative feelings that you have. You are not alone in feeling this way – it is a normal reaction. Having negative feelings does not mean you are a bad person, and being aware of your feelings may make it easier to deal with them and move on.
- Talk about things – Talking is often the first step to dealing with your emotions. It may seem like a small thing, but it can make you feel less isolated and stressed, and it can help to put things in perspective. Bottling up your feelings, or not taking the time to address them, is likely to make things worse.
- Think positively – Pick out and focus on some of the positive aspects of caring and supporting someone, such as your commitment to the person you care for, and your fondness for them. Think about your relationship with them and the fact you are there for them and are helping them enormously.
- Talk to other carers – Talking about your experiences with other carers can also be hugely beneficial. You may be able to share advice and discuss your experiences. It may also be easier to talk about your feelings with other carers because they understand what you are going through. Register at the DementiaSupport Group Philippines. to talk to others
- Involve family and friends – You may find involving family and friends helps to give you a break and reduce some of your stress. For some people they can provide a good range of support. Even if they can’t offer day-to-day care, they may be able to look after the person while you have a break, or they might be able to assist in other ways, such as helping with finances.
- Focus on the good things – Sometimes it can be hard to see the positive things that you are achieving in your caring role. Writing things down – even small things, such as a shared joke – might be useful. When you are having a difficult day, these things can remind you of the good you are doing and that there will be better times.
- Take a break – You will be able to cope better if you take breaks away from the person you care for and find time for yourself. Try to find time to reflect and relax, enjoy personal interests and hobbies, and socialise with friends and family.
Don’t be afraid to ask us, RainTree Care, for help and support if you need it. Many families are in the same situations as you are. As of today more than 300,000 persons in the Philippines have been diagnosed with Dementia. You are not alone with your struggle.